Violence is the problem - not men
The Sarah Everard murder is shocking. It is the plot of a horror movie. The very person we pay and rely on to protect us from evil was the very manifestation of it. The fact he used his 'power' as a police officer to subdue, handcuff and transport this poor lady to her death is chilling. Everyone I know would have followed his instructions. Allowed themselves to be physically restrained and then quietly sat in the back of this car.
Within 6 days of Sarah going missing, Wayne Couzens – a serving police officer, had been arrested for her murder. This is a great piece of work by the police - a fact that no one talks about. This does not mean the police should not look internally to see if they missed an opportunity to stop this evil man sooner, for we all should be trying to improve.
Couzens has now been convicted and will spend the rest of his life in jail. A better result could not have been expected for this brutal crime unless we bring back the death penalty – I am for that. But this outcome was not enough for some people. It was not enough for the radical, men-hating feminists - 'all men are to blame'.
We know the world can be a dangerous place. Last year, a 90-year-old woman in the UK starved to death because social services forgot to visit her. Last month, an Italian woman went for a walk in the woods and a pack of wild dogs killed her. And in the last few days, I guarantee a woman somewhere in the country has died in a car accident. Yet none of this will stop us from using social services, going for a walk, or getting in a car.
We traverse life assessing risk as we go along. We take sensible precautions to reduce risk while at the same time living our lives. This is not to say that worrying is silly - far from it. The more we are aware of the danger the more we can be prepared and precautions can be taken, if needed.
But if we allow our emotions to overrule our common sense then we become petrified and unable to function for we perceive danger everywhere. This is what is happening today. Men are a danger. Police are a danger. If you want to be safe as a woman, then having more men and police around you is the best option.
Men can be violent – we all know this. But women are also violent and dangerous, for it is a human trait. We forget sometimes that we are animals who happen to be living in a concrete jungle.
According to government figures, women commit a third of all domestic violence and 10% of all murders. 43% of all female crime is violent crime. Women are not Disney princesses, they are human, and humans are violent. The real difference between the sexes is that men are more physically powerful, so do more damage.
I understand why some women are afraid. It is a natural reaction to such a horrible incident. Fear is useful - it keeps us alert and stops us from being eaten or falling off a cliff. It is sensible to be concerned about personal safety. Men are concerned for they are murdered at 3 times the rate of women.
I have some good news, violent crime is falling – it has since records began. In the last 25 years, we have seen a 72% reduction in violent crime incidents. This is great news. We still have more to do and we must not rest on our laurels. It is official, we live in a very safe country – but bad things will still occasionally happen.
The recent outpouring of misandry on social media has been shocking. All men need educating not to rape - men are dangerous criminals - and the most pernicious, boys need de-masculinising so they do not grow up to be like men. We are in the middle of a 'man-hating' epidemic. Toxic masculinity. Patriarchy. Mansplaining. Man-spreading.
How did we get here? The simple answer is some women hate men, they are known as feminists. All men-haters are feminists, but not all feminists hate men – a subtle difference. Only 7% of Brits identify as feminists, for the myth they are fighting for quality has been exposed through their vile utterances. Life teaches us to turn away from hate for it leads to a dark unhappy place.
If we are to carry on reducing violence, then we need to concentrate on prevention and early intervention - to stop people from becoming offenders and reduce the number of victims. Let us ensure that children are not raised in violent homes for violence breeds violence. We need to keep fathers in the home for this hugely benefits both boys and girls. Highlight children who are more likely to be dysfunctional, so we can put in place help and support.
I would crack down on low-level antisocial behaviour for many of these perpetrators are also the violent criminals. I would lock away violent offenders sooner and for longer, or until they pass the peak age for offending. A faster criminal justice system is needed to get offenders in front of a judge in months, not years. And let's run a pilot project for a fast-track corporal punishment sentence for certain offences.
Life is not a competition between men and women. It is a partnership. We bring different skills and experiences to the table and work together to create the best life, especially for the next generation. I want my fiancée, daughters, mum, sister, niece and granddaughter to be safe and happy. I am not fighting against them, I am fighting for them. Men are not a danger to women - a tiny minority of people are a danger to us all.
When life is in danger, remember who shouts 'Women and children first!' - it is men.
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Sources:
- https://www.london.gov.uk/sites/default/files/mopac_lcpf_co-commissioning_workshop_fo_july_2017.pdf
- https://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/life/only-7-per-cent-of-britons-consider-themselves-feminists/