The Life Of A Man – pain, suffering and responsibility
The life of a man is not easy - it was never meant to be so and should never be. An easy life means he is not pushing himself, taking responsibility, or delivering on his God-given duties of being a protector and provider.
I do not want to hear complaints from men. Only a plan of action on how they are going to overcome or deliver more for individuals under their protection. Moaning never kept the sabre tooth tiger away or produced a healthy crop of cereal. It is a waste of precious time that could be used more effectively to produce results.
Moaning only works when you have someone placed above you, someone to moan to. There is no one above a man for he answers to no one. This is why all responsibility falls upon his shoulders. Others may help him to bear the load, but make no mistake, the full weight of the load lies firmly only on his shoulders. A man's load is non-transferable.
This is the deal men made with women. Women take responsibility for motherhood and raising children, and men take responsibility for everything else. Both roles are hard work, demanding and sometimes unfair, but these are our natural roles. Mother nature is formidable and rarely changes her mind. One role is not better or superior to the other – only a fool gives time to ideas of gender equity. Men and women are a partnership when they join together – team amazing. Success or failure for one delivers the same result to the other.
I am not saying that men do not have valid problems to moan about for they do. They are more likely to die younger, commit suicide, and be murdered and assaulted. They have higher rates of unemployment, homelessness, incarceration, addiction, and parent alienation. These are all important topics that need addressing and some men are doing exactly that by setting up support groups or lobbying the government. This is action, not moaning.
The only acceptable path to tread when a man has a problem is the one that leads to a valid solution. It is not acceptable to ignore it, avoid it, or cry about it. Men should not cry, let me repeat this – men should not cry! We are willing to overlook a few tears at the funeral of a close family member. But breaking down in the arms of your partner because you did not get a promotion at work or someone called you hurty words is never acceptable. If a man must cry, he must lock himself in a room, cry himself out, and never tell a soul. Men crying in front of people is a sign of weakness and they will be judged by others. I do not make these rules, I just report them.
A wife's happiness is her husband's responsibility, so a man must choose carefully when picking a spouse. Marrying the wrong woman is a sure way to a long unhappy life in the knowledge that it is your fault for not vetting her properly. Placing the blame upon your partner is a form of moaning that negates your involvement in the creation of the relationship.
The future success of children is heavily influenced by fathers. Women may have responsibility for raising children but this is not the same as preparing children to be adults. Fathers play a huge role in this development, in fact, they play a much bigger role than they realise.
"Children who grow up without a father are 5 times more likely to live in poverty & commit crime, 9 times more likely to drop out of school & 20 times more likely to end up in prison." - Barack Obama, 2008
A father's job is to stop his son from ending up in jail and stop his daughter from becoming a stripper. This is a minimum requirement of fathers, a good father can give so much more to his children.
It is a mistake and dereliction of a man's duty not to prepare children for the future by giving them the skills and knowledge needed to excel. Do not allow the mistakes of previous fathers to be passed down to the next generation.
A man may love his father but still want to achieve more than his father ever did. A father loves his son and wants his child to achieve more than him in life. Men push others to be better.
Many men have lost their way in our society for we have denigrated the role of men. Masculinity is now called toxic. Who is to blame for this current malaise? The answer is clear. The answer is obvious.
Men are to blame for the situation they find themselves in, not individually, but collectively. No one held a gun to the heads of men and made them embrace femininity. No one forced them to moisturise, share their feelings, accept abortion, or support the self-destruction of women through feminism. Men became weak and stopped being protectors.
A society does not function with weak men as we are witnessing today. When men take the path of least resistance it advertises weakness, cowardice and rejection of responsibility. The only path a man should tread is the right path, the one that delivers the best for his family and community. His comfort should be of no concern.
Men are our future. Let us reset by telling them this good news and explaining what society requires of them. They have not let us down in the past, so I see no reason why they will in the future.
But the first step is informing them they need to be stronger and take on more responsibility – they have to start being real men once again.
Men will rise to the challenge or we are all doomed.
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